i love you but i want to smother you with a pillow

We all know someone, a significant other, a co-worker, a best friend, maybe one of your own children, that you really, really and truly love…most days.  But sometimes and possibly multiple times in the same day, you could just as easily SMOTHER THEM WITH PILLOW!

I know that you are now thinking about that person, fondly or depending on the mood, not so fondly.  You are thinking about how much you love them, couldn’t live without them, would walk to the ends of the earth for them, would give up your last pancake for them, and then just as passionately, you could in an instant, SNAP! You’ve covered that lovely face with a pillow, you are holding it down, they struggle and POOF! Game over! (For both of you, lol).

Now the whole point would be to never and I really mean NEVER (ALL CAPS THAT’S HOW SERIOUS I AM) let your inner sociopath loose on the world and actually smother someone with a pillow.  Although it is a kind and very soft way…nope stop right there and get back inside me you little raving sociopath.

We know your, let’s call them sweet little bunny rabbit, is not trying to drive you insane.  You know they mean well, are trying to help, are hangry, doing the best they can and 100 other reasons why their super annoying, gonna get them smothered ways are not intentional.

https://www.themuse.com/advice/7-wellmeaning-phrases-thatll-always-be-read-the-wrong-way

So, what can you do?

SAY NO!  Reclaim your boundaries and stop feeling bad about it!  Take back your sanity and kindly say, I appreciate you, but I got this.

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-say-no/

Sometimes the best thing you can do is say no to someone. This tiny two letter word is pretty universal, it works in most languages, and we are taught what it means from birth!

Even animals understand the word, most people teach their dog or cat the word no. Little kids run around saying no so you know that when you say no to a fully formed human AKA adult, they should be able to understand what you are saying. You can say no by shaking your head, using your hands, and even by a fun filled roll of the eyes.  There are so many cool ways to say no that I challenge you to make up new and exciting ways to express your desire to say no and even learn it in a new language. (Here’s 52 ways to say NO)

https://www.fluentu.com/blog/no-in-different-languages

No is not a magic word, there are still many people who won’t or can’t take NO for an answer.  They will continue to help you or what they consider helping you whether you like it or not.  Sometimes a firmer NO will be required. But in the end, you will have set your boundaries and hopefully a few less future no’s will be needed. In a pinch you can also buy more pillows, (let your inner sociopath run wild and go on a pillow smothering rampage.  I can see the headlines now, “SERIAL PILLOW SMOTHERER ON THE LOOSE!”) NO, inner sociopath, not today! See I just said no to myself, and it worked! I can stop GOOGLING, “pillow sale”.

https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-nicely-say-no

Tell me how you say NO in a kind way (or not so kind way) to people and how it made you feel when you set your boundaries and resisted the inner sociopathic urge to walk around smothering people with pillows.  Share the feeling of pride or the look of shock on that well-meaning person’s face when you said, I got this and actually had it.